ABUSERS ARE BULLIES

• Bystanders who watch and record bulling are encouraging and empowering bullies continue to do it again, and again, and again.
• They count on no one being courageous to stop them.
• If no one intervenes, bullies are 60% more likely to perpetrate violence against intimate partners as adults.

Each successful bullying event reinforces their intense desire and need for control in the hopes no one will ever intervene.  So the cycle goes on and on and on. Bullies are not born.  They learn "how to" use their actions by watching successful abusers – adults and other children. The good news is that bullies can be salvaged from the schoolyards.

ACTION POINT: Arm yourself and be ready to HALT bullying in its tracks. Register here to attend the FREE workshop: HALT Teen Dating & Domestic Violence on Saturday, 10/17/15, 8:30 to 11:30 am,    And for more bulling information, click here  http://www.kevinmd.com/blog/2012/04/bullies-born-raised.html

True or False: Domestic violence spiked Labor Day weekend?

"You gotta be kidding," was my immediate reaction to the answer of False!  But according to the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence that holidays see an increase of domestic violence is largely a myth.  The reason being that victims try harder to keep the peace when families are spending time together.

On second thought, during the 23 years together with my ex-husband, it was easy to not upset him during holidays.  He was a "happy" drunk.  It was the days after holidays that he raged and changed from Dr. Jekyll to Mr. Hyde. 

What do you think?

To hear more of my story - register for the FREE workshop - HALT Teen Dating Abuse & Domestic Violence being held October 17, 2015, Saturday, 8:30 to 11:30 am at Leawood Baptist Church, 8200 State Line Road, Leawood, KS -Register at my website - HALT Family Abuse.org or http://bit.ly/HALTOct15

Do you know what "1 in 3" mean?

• 1 in 3 teen dating relationships are experiencing some form of abuse and violence .
• 1 in 3 women experience domestic violence causing more injuries to them than car accidents, muggings, and rapes, COMBINED.

Every third girl and woman you know is experiencing one or more forms of these abuses.   * Emotional      * Financial      * Physical      * Sexual      * Verbal

Click http://nomore.org/ to learn ways YOU can make a difference for loved ones in your life!!!  And register here or at HALTfamilyabuse.org for the interactive FREE workshop: HALT Teen Dating Abuse & Domestic Violence on October 17, 2015, Saturday, 8:30 – 11:30 am.  Donations are appreciated and 25% goes to Safehome domestic violence shelter in Johnson County, KS. 

Kansas City Ordinance Helps Stop Abuse

HOORAY for the Kansas City Council.  HOORAY!!!  They passed a new city ordinance closing dangerous loopholes in temporary protection orders.  KMBC9 News reported Councilman Scott Taylor saying, "The assailant will, after the initial abuse, make contact again and sweet talk and try and get back into the lives and build trust so the person that is abused does not press charges.  This is an important way to stop that."  

The new ordinance allows the city to move faster in arresting violators and doubling fines of the perpetrators during the interim between temporary and permanent protection orders. It also protects victims and gives abusers fewer opportunities to manipulate the petitioner out of following through with getting the permanent protection order. 

To learn more about child abuse, teen dating violence, domestic violence and elder abuse visit HALTfamilyabuse.org and register for the free upcoming “Guiding Families to Safety Conference on Saturday, 10/11/2014.